Comments on: A Bad Taste in My Mouth http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/ Learn to parent like no one else so your children can grow up to be like no one else. Uncommon Parenting founders Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are prolific authors, keynote speakers, seminar leaders, and media personalities that provide guidance and understanding of behavior and parenting communication issues. Sat, 31 Dec 2011 02:43:35 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Den http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3700 Den Sun, 27 Sep 2009 12:42:53 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3700 Spelling & grammar errors are common, & I try not to point it out because I am not a white American & I did not grow up here. But yes, I agree that personal responsibility is the core issue here. In one of my last jobs in the Philippines before moving to America I was a training & organizational development specialist for Samsung. The company\'s slogan at the time was \"Change begins with me.\" Too often people like to blame someone or something other than themselves for what goes wrong. Whether it\'s family, the school system, the culture - it\'s always easier to put the blame on someone else than to take a close, hard look at ourselves & see what\'s wrong & what needs to change. Spelling & grammar errors are common, & I try not to point it out because I am not a white American & I did not grow up here.  But yes, I agree that personal responsibility is the core issue here. 

In one of my last jobs in the Philippines before moving to America I was a training & organizational development specialist for Samsung.  The company\’s slogan at the time was \"Change begins with me.\" Too often people like to blame someone or something other than themselves for what goes wrong.  Whether it\’s family, the school system, the culture – it\’s always easier to put the blame on someone else than to take a close, hard look at ourselves & see what\’s wrong & what needs to change.

]]> By: sue http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3598 sue Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:34:02 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3598 I agree with you Chick and it drives me crazy!! I just had this conversation last night! I am taking a college class, at an old age....and my classmates posts and language are driving me crazy! Examples of; there for their, their selfs for themselves, it is awful!! And these are adults in college!!!! I am appalled at the lack of concern for their replies and the instructor hasn't corrected them yet!! I just don't understand....I would have asked for the pen to correct it, otherwise, I like you, would still be thinking about it! I do reply to those posts and be sure I use their words over, only correctly! I agree with you Chick and it drives me crazy!!  I just had this conversation last night!  I am taking a college class, at an old age….and my classmates posts and language are driving me crazy!  Examples of; there for their, their selfs for themselves, it is awful!!  And these are adults in college!!!!  I am appalled at the lack of concern for their replies and the instructor hasn’t corrected them yet!!  I just don’t understand….I would have asked for the pen to correct it, otherwise, I like you, would still be thinking about it!  I do reply to those posts and be sure I use their words over, only correctly!

]]> By: Chick http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3503 Chick Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:15:29 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3503 Is this a cultural problem or a management problem? Or a personal problem? Perhaps some of each. chick Is this a cultural problem or a management problem? Or a personal problem? Perhaps some of each.

chick

]]> By: Wynne http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3493 Wynne Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:42:05 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3493 Having been in the shoes of those who serve food, I am intolerant of servers who do not take the responsibility to represent their restaurant - and themselves - in the best possible way to customers. When asked about the soup of the day - or a similar type question - they have no problem saying they \\"don\\\'t know, they just came in\\". It doesn\\\'t appear to bother them that they don\\\'t know, and they apparently feel no responsibility to find out. I recognize that this is a management problem also, how could an owner allow his employees to be \\"on the floor\\" without the tools to do the best job, but how could a person be comfortable with himself in that situation? Having been in the shoes of those who serve food, I am intolerant of servers who do not take the responsibility to represent their restaurant – and themselves – in the best possible way to customers.  When asked about the soup of the day – or a similar type question – they have no problem saying they \\"don\\\’t know, they just came in\\".  It doesn\\\’t appear to bother them that they don\\\’t know, and they apparently feel no responsibility to find out.  I recognize that this is a management problem also, how could an owner allow his employees to be \\"on the floor\\" without the tools to do the best job, but how could a person be comfortable with himself in that situation?

]]> By: Monica in HB, CA http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3484 Monica in HB, CA Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:42:39 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3484 Unfortunately, I, too, have seen common mistakes such as the one Chick noticed, have had the same kind of conversation, and I, too, wondered how I could have presented my thoughts differently. And, like Chick, I also noticed I was the only one engaged in the morality of the situation as well as the only one engaged in the question of personal responsibility of the situation. A sad commentary on the state of consciousness in our culture. Unfortunately, I, too, have seen common mistakes such as the one Chick noticed, have had the same kind of conversation, and I, too, wondered how I could have presented my thoughts differently.  And, like Chick, I also noticed I was the only one engaged in the morality of the situation as well as the only one engaged in the question of personal responsibility of the situation.  A sad commentary on the state of consciousness in our culture.

]]> By: Jane http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3482 Jane Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:47:42 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3482 I see stuff like this all the time and it drives me crazy. I don't doubt it a bit. I've also run into similar attitudes from sales clerks. The last time was over a bit of math, not spelling or grammar. I'd given her $10.58 for a $7.58 sale and she panicked. I tried three times to explain how to figure out the change (I used to teach math) and each time she interrupted saying (louder and louder each time), "I'm no good in math." Seemed really attached to being bad at math, not remotely willing to take advantage of an opportunity to understand something, much less take responsibility for her own learning. Drives me crazy. I see stuff like this all the time and it drives me crazy. I don’t doubt it a bit. I’ve also run into similar attitudes from sales clerks. The last time was over a bit of math, not spelling or grammar. I’d given her $10.58 for a $7.58 sale and she panicked. I tried three times to explain how to figure out the change (I used to teach math) and each time she interrupted saying (louder and louder each time), “I’m no good in math.” Seemed really attached to being bad at math, not remotely willing to take advantage of an opportunity to understand something, much less take responsibility for her own learning. Drives me crazy.

]]> By: Chick http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3476 Chick Tue, 15 Sep 2009 16:05:20 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3476 Big Boy Restaurant, Benton Harbor, MI, I-94, about a year ago.The whitefish was tasty. chick Big Boy Restaurant, Benton Harbor, MI, I-94, about a year ago.The whitefish was tasty.

chick

]]> By: Tom http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/comment-page-1/#comment-3475 Tom Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:09:40 +0000 http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/2009/09/a-bad-taste-in-my-mouth/#comment-3475 I wonder if Chick makes up these stories sometimes, i have never seen anything like this in my 50 years. I wonder if Chick makes up these stories sometimes, i have never seen anything like this in my 50 years.

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